How do we live and walk the love of Ephesians 5:1-2? I have a new favorite book that I’ve been reading entitled “Grace Filled Marriage” by Tim Kellem. And in his book, he points out most people love by the lens they see life with. So the question then becomes what lens at a given time am I seeing others through? Am I living Love?
Me Lens – It’s described as a lens that reflects everything the person sees back on them. Imagine an interrogation room how one side is mirrored and the other can see everything through. The Me Lens is like the mirrored side of life on seeing life and others by how it affects them. This lens often leads to us being self-absorbed and self-protecting.
Love If Lens – I will love you if you do this this and this. I will love you as long as the conditions are right. Getting out of the car and your sunglasses fog up after riding around in the A/C, you cannot see because the conditions are not right. However, when everything normalizes, the lens can be seen out of. Often times this is a result of us creating a list of why we love others, but the problem arises when they stop meeting those expectations, will we still love them? We are quick to criticize with these lens because our expectations are not being met. This lens often leads to us being self-serving and self-protecting.
Pious lens – Pious is defined as being devoutly religious, making a hypocritical display of virtue, churchy, or holier-than-though. I have learned of the 3 this one is the most sinister because most can be convinced of their self-absorption, self-serving or self-protecting. However, it’s much harder to get people to acknowledge their own self-righteousness. These are sometimes church members don’t live as believers but like Pharisees. Jesus had specific names for people like these: Jesus called them snakes (Mat. 23:33), whitewashed tombs (23:27) and kissing cousins of the devil himself (John 8:44).
However, the unnatural lens is the lens Ephesians 5:1-2 call us to. The Grace lens – The Grace lens allows us to love unconditionally. And we cannot do this naturally. IT’s only by Christ. It’s unconditional therefore it chooses to love and it’s action because is willing to love others even when they are unlovable. Grace lens sees people how Christ sees people. Are You Walking In Love? Love defined by God is a choice, Love defined by Christ is action. The Holy Spirit enables, and empowers you to live it!